HOUSE OF LOVE AND BRAGGING
Aimee Bender
“…I am not, in general, so God-fearing. I consider myself
a highly assimilated Jew. At Jewish summer camp, in the big Shabbat
sing-along, we all joyfully screamed, "Nutter Butter Peanut
Butter" in between verses of Debbie Friedman's "Not by
Might, Not by Power." My parents are assimilated too. My mother
freely confesses to eyeing the crosses around her classmates' necks
as a girl, and wanting one for herself. Every year, my parents host
a Seder, and everyone enjoys it, but it lasts ten minutes. Maybe
twenty, including opening the door for Elijah and a plucky round
of Dayenu.
And I am fine with this version of Judaism, with a pick-and-choose
method of incorporating the religion into my daily life. It's a
giant buffet here in America; in my yoga class, the guy in front
of me
has the Shema tattooed all over his back, so I sing “Hear O
Israel” to myself while stepping into Warrior One. It's kind
of nice.
But all that said, sometimes my unconscious seems much more religious
and superstitious than my day-to-day self. I don't believe in
a figure who is out there watching us; I don't think that the
Nazis
are going
to return and take over Los Angeles. But I am still haunted by
this fear of punishment when things are going well…”
Aimee Bender is
the author of The Girl in the Flammable Skirt (Doubleday, 1998)
and An Invisible
Sign of My Own (Doubleday,
2000), as well
as a new collection of stories which will be out in fall '05 from
Doubleday. Her short fiction has been published in Granta, GQ,
The Paris Review, Harper's, Tin House, and more, as well as heard on
NPR's "This American Life." She lives in Los Angeles and
teaches at USC.