PHILOSOPHERS WITH WOMBS
Rebecca Goldstein
“Although I was married shockingly young, right after my freshman
year of college, I postponed having children for some years. I was
moved by large and inexplicable ambitions. No woman I knew had the
ambitions I did. The woman’s movement was in its toddler phase.
In the Orthodox Jewish world in which I’d been raised, we hadn’t
heard a peep out of it. So where did I get off thinking that I had
important things to learn before I could even contemplate duplicating
my genes? I have no idea.
I’d always had the thought of motherhood tucked-away on my
list of to-do’s. I loved kids, I more than looked forward to
having one or two of my own someday. Yet the pressure to have children
right after marriage—so universal in my family’s community
as to go without saying—was as unwelcome to me as the thought
of never having kids at all. I wanted to be a mother, sure, but I
didn’t want to be a mother who wore housedresses.
The housedress is a garment halfway between a bathrobe and a proper
dress. It allowed you to change out of your nightclothes without
allowing you to leave the house. A woman could respectably answer
the door in it, but she couldn’t step out of the door. Sometimes
they were called “housecoats,” cruelly pouring on the
irony: coats that kept you inside…”
Rebecca Goldstein is
the author of five novels, including The Mind-Body Problem,
Mazel, and Properties of Light, as well as a book of short
stories, Strange Attractors. She is most recently the author of Incompleteness:
The Proof and Paradox of Kurt Gödel, which is part of the Norton
Series on Great Scientific Discoveries. The winner of numerous awards
for her fiction and scholarship, including two National Jewish Book
Awards and two Whiting awards, one for fiction and one for philosophy,
in 1995 she was named a MacArthur Fellow.